Sometime back, I was watching an interview of a very eminent female who has been quite successful in her field of interest . Quite impressed by her personality, I was very keenly watching her interview. Every word coming out from her mouth seemed to be so relevant & perfect. Finally the interviewer asked her few questions about her personal life and her one answer suddenly changed my whole perspective about her. With that one answer of her, everything seemed to be so umm what you call... distant!!. Suddenly, I felt that I can never become like her…Just few minutes back, I was admiring her & wanted to be like her & her just one single sentence about her personal life made me realize that I can’t be as successful as her. Well, her that one sentence was – “SUCCESS DOESN'T COME WITHOUT ANY SACRIFICE & FOR HER SUCCESS SHE HAS SACRIFICED HER FAMILY LIFE”. She wanted to move ahead in her life & after marriage she realized that her time was getting divided between work & home. Because of her demanding nature of work, she was finding it difficult to cope with the situation & so she finally decided not to have any child at all as she never wanted to have further responsibilities. She never regretted her decision of not having a child as she was knowing that she would have never attained this success if she would have gone ahead with a child in her life.Huh!! you call this success??
Well, frankly speaking even I grew up in my life with some fiery ambition & big dreams in my eyes. Got married couple of years & suddenly the whole life changed. I quit my job, buried my dream of getting a degree. Suddenly I found people judging me. I have advises pouring in all directions, people talking about independence, individuality and complex stuff like that. Its very simple look at it this way, I'm no super woman who can manage the time that gets divided between home and work.Working after marriage would mean, you are not only supposed to perform only one role in your office & be evaluated by your boss rather should be juggling between so many roles in your life & there are so many people who evaluate you for the different roles. Who would want that?? Ok I may sound a li'l cynical here, but frankly all this would sound "wow" initially and we ignore the situations that would follow. Its quite natural, that your personal time would also get split between two fronts of your life – work & home. You always trying to strike a balance between work & home and sometimes get quite frustrated when you are not able to satisfy either. As you start to grow on a professional level or have the taste of success things turn upside down (believe me on this one) .... there are few inevitable questions that arise and really scare you about the days when you will have a family, as in your heart you are very much aware that a child will be onset of some huge responsibilities in your life.
I know so many females who are also struggling hard to strike a perfect balance between work & home. Even though they were highly ambitious, their career had taken back seat because of their families. They had literally burnt themselves in this so called “balancing act”. They had given off their dreams of becoming some CEO or MD or XYZ of some big company. On the other hand there are few who are aware of the consequences & the cost which they will have to pay, then too would like to work. as personally I think life gets completed only after having a child & family. I am fully aware of the fact that one will have to trade off the big dreams & ambition for having a family life but then too want to go ahead with my family life.
So many females like me just try hard to strike a perfect balance between work & home but striking a balance generally leads to a mediocre level career & a mediocre level home - maker. The moment one tries to attain something big or excellent on either front of life, the pointer of the balance gets tilted to that particular side & the other side gets a li'l neglected. So, the next step will be either to reduce the efforts towards attaining that big/excellent thing and bring the pointer to balanced position or choose any one of the sides. I seriously wonder, if there is anything known as “PERFECT BALANCE” between two fronts of life where you achieve good at both the fronts or is it always a “TRADE OFF” between the two!!
Well, frankly speaking even I grew up in my life with some fiery ambition & big dreams in my eyes. Got married couple of years & suddenly the whole life changed. I quit my job, buried my dream of getting a degree. Suddenly I found people judging me. I have advises pouring in all directions, people talking about independence, individuality and complex stuff like that. Its very simple look at it this way, I'm no super woman who can manage the time that gets divided between home and work.Working after marriage would mean, you are not only supposed to perform only one role in your office & be evaluated by your boss rather should be juggling between so many roles in your life & there are so many people who evaluate you for the different roles. Who would want that?? Ok I may sound a li'l cynical here, but frankly all this would sound "wow" initially and we ignore the situations that would follow. Its quite natural, that your personal time would also get split between two fronts of your life – work & home. You always trying to strike a balance between work & home and sometimes get quite frustrated when you are not able to satisfy either. As you start to grow on a professional level or have the taste of success things turn upside down (believe me on this one) .... there are few inevitable questions that arise and really scare you about the days when you will have a family, as in your heart you are very much aware that a child will be onset of some huge responsibilities in your life.
I know so many females who are also struggling hard to strike a perfect balance between work & home. Even though they were highly ambitious, their career had taken back seat because of their families. They had literally burnt themselves in this so called “balancing act”. They had given off their dreams of becoming some CEO or MD or XYZ of some big company. On the other hand there are few who are aware of the consequences & the cost which they will have to pay, then too would like to work. as personally I think life gets completed only after having a child & family. I am fully aware of the fact that one will have to trade off the big dreams & ambition for having a family life but then too want to go ahead with my family life.
So many females like me just try hard to strike a perfect balance between work & home but striking a balance generally leads to a mediocre level career & a mediocre level home - maker. The moment one tries to attain something big or excellent on either front of life, the pointer of the balance gets tilted to that particular side & the other side gets a li'l neglected. So, the next step will be either to reduce the efforts towards attaining that big/excellent thing and bring the pointer to balanced position or choose any one of the sides. I seriously wonder, if there is anything known as “PERFECT BALANCE” between two fronts of life where you achieve good at both the fronts or is it always a “TRADE OFF” between the two!!
