Two years old :)

My Blog completed two years today!!! It has been a wonderful journey for me so far. Lets see 36 posts (though not many...but wow really??) and few good followers. Though I do not have as many readers as i wanted to have as I rarely get time to update my blog ......Does it matter? hehe lets leave it there ;) This blog has not only given me a good pass time, but even wonderful friends. I've interacted with few of them...exchanged ideas and views thanks to the social networking sites.

Its silly to write a post about it....haha celebrating my blog's birthday??!! I love occasions...I look for a chance to tag each and everyday of my life with an occasion...I find a reason (silly or special) to celebrate day to day happenings...and my blog is one such thing....To write about something...that reflects a part of your life or you in someway and then read and relate to it...aah amazing feeling!!

nope nope nope i'm not promising anything now....all I'm saying is I'll update as and when I find time...and something worthy to write about....speaking of it...I do have something to write about ...working on it will be back soon :)

Thank you all for bearing with me and my delays in posting :)

Empty Womb- Aching Heart

Well I'm sorry guys for not being able to post all these days. I did not have anything worthwhile to blog about. Now as I do...here I'm... No I'm not here to discuss the book by Marlo Schalesky, but to talk about things that took place around me in the past months

My friend's neighbour, a govt employee committed suicide by hanging herself at her house in Colva on Tuesday.The deceased Jeanna Periera (27), took the extreme step after she was reportedly told by a doctor that she had remote chances of conceiving. Jeanna was married to an employee of a private firm five years ago and the couple had absolutely no issues. She recently met a doctor who is said to have told her that she might not conceive.The incident came to light when her husband returned home in the evening. She has left a suicide note asking her husband to marry another girl.

The other day Y and me were discussing the same thing, where we spoke about this craving for children among humans, specially women. Last week while I was consoling an acquaintance who had a miscarriage, she asked  me if I had any of my own. I donot know if the person agreed  with me or she was just trying to see if I knew what i was talking about. I love kids, be it my own or those of others - I'd any day prefer to spend time with them than in the company of adults. I do not mind the demands on my time, energy and emotions but I don't think I'd have been shattered if I could not have one of my own. I believe a child doesn't necessarily have to have the stamp of my genes for me to love her/him.

Though most of the women today refuse to be stereotyped in many ways, it seems that many of them still feel inadequate when they cannot bear a child. One woman even told me that she saw it as a kind of personal failure. My jaw dropped (literally) when I heard her say that.  I responded: 'What is the big deal? You cannot dance, you cannot sing, you cannot have a child. have you thought about adoption?' For a second she might have thought I was joking or even being insensitive.

I am quite aware of the age old stigma that used to be attached to a woman who was 'infertile'- there is even a specific word for such woman in Telugu. It is strange to see  that there is no male equivalent to the same word!! Few months ago another friend of mine told me about the kind of insults that were thrown at her by her in-laws because she hasn't been able to give them a grandchild five or six years since her marriage. It was even more unfair because her doctor had cleared her of any possible gynac problem, but her in-laws refused to believe her. What is surprising is the  husband preferred not to get in to the issue and let her deal with his parents. He neither did anything to stop his parents nor be emotionally supportive to his wife. And all this was happening not in some remote village in India but in a country in the western world where they had made their home. And the girl herself is a well-educated woman with a career. What surprised me in her story  was not  the attitude of her in-laws nope, given their age and background I would say they were bound to think the way they did.....but I was surprised that my friend and her husband were affected by all this to the extent their marriage was in trouble.

The ability to create a life is a special gift, a gift that nature has bestowed upon most women. I would say there is no reason to feel worthless if your body is not fit for the same. There are still ways to create meaning in life. It is not a handicap situation. Remember you are still a perfect person. My request to all the women out there...Please donot  allow others to define you in terms of roles. For this you have to first stop seeing yourselves as these roles. Being a mother is just one part of your life. If you cannot have one of your own, let it out by adopting a child or supporting one. Your life is too precious to be given up for this.

I'm back...or so i think!! ;)

Remeber me?? !!

Yeah I know I told you guys that I would update as soon as I get back from the vacation and I failed....failed miserably....if you did not know i happened to go on another vacation after that one :D :P

I'm bored to death these days, I do not have anything to update, so hope will be back soon with something interesting

:D :D

Me the commings to Hyd!! :D

yay yay yay 20 days in hyderabad is what I was looking forward to all these days

I'll be away... come on!! I'm going on a vacation...want sometime for myself away from internet .....but I promise I would update as soon as I'm back from my vacation.

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Child Sexual Abuse - The 8th Sin!!

Children are like bundles of innocence, they are like flowers, tender, meant to be cared for. They are like a candle that needs to be lit. They deserve every bit of protection and safety that parents or for that matter society can provide. Whether we accept it or not, whether we talk about it or not, its a fact that more than 30% of children below the age of 12, have been sexually abused, at one time or another. This happens in all sections of the society be it a boy or a girl. It is difficult for us to confront such incidents. Sometimes it needs a little  extra help to break the ice and speak up. I do not understand why people do not talk about it? I mean you have complaints about the government, hike in the prices, but  you do not talk about something which harmed you own child. Why is it that when it comes to dealing with the abuser, parents decide to remain silent!!?? This is because most of the times the abuser is a member of the family or someone who is close to the family.

The problem is we think about the social effect associated with the incident, the burden of shame, the family has to face. Do we ever for a second think what the abused is going through?? The families in most case ignore the signs, they hush the matter even if they notice. The famous dialogues..... What will happen to "Us and our children"?, it would tarnish our image in the society!! Well while you are busy running away from a life of fear and paranoia, you fail to see that you are pushing your kid in to it. Yeah shutting eyes and ignoring something is so cool isn't it??!!Things have to change and change begins with you. There has been too much of hushing and the silence of the victims is deafening to the ear. Its high time we start accepting and speaking out about it.

The first step to bring them out of it is educating and discussing about Child sexual abuse. If children know what is right and what is wrong  will they alert the parents about such a thing? Believing them and instilling confidence is the best way to get them out of it or how else will you be able to look in to those eyes without feeling guilty ever again!!Thinking back, I realize how protective my parents always were. Without making my brother and me a mistrustful bunch of kids, they always ensured that we were under the right and the watchful eyes.
They told us what was right and wrong and we knew they would trust us if at all something like this happened.
Children deserve a happy and a safe childhood. And no matter what we as adults have to provide it.

Happy New Year!!

Hello readers!!

Happy new year to all of you....well what's special this year?? aahh the world is coming to an end, so did you list out all the things you want to do before you die?? I did :P

2012 started on a happy sad note...hope this year would be much more exciting than the year gone by

I'll be back with my day to day stuff soon :D